Is your relationship boring? Do you feel trapped or in a rut? Do you feel that you are being controlled and can do nothing about it?

Well, a lot of people are in the same boat, and they do nothing about it.

There is a lot of help out there so don’t waste your life staying in a bad relationship.

One of the main reasons that people do not leave a relationship are the finances, they feel that they cannot manage on their own.

A trip to a good divorce solicitor is a must if you are married or are in partnership financially with a partner.

Citizens advice are good at helping with debt and will give advice on many areas that you will need to know.

It would be a good idea to confide in someone that you trust about what you want to do.

Your local DWP will tell you what benefits you can claim and social services can help where children are concerned.

Your local council will help with housing as well as housing associations and you can also rent privately.

For people that are in abusive or violent relationships there are safe houses and refuges where they can go.

There are also many telephone help lines which you can Google.

So shake a leg and make that first step to get help and you will not regret it, move on and have a lovely life.

The answer is a definite yes!!!

Why?

To save you heart ache in the future.

When you meet someone new and you really like him or her it is always a plus if you know someone who knows him or her or a bit about them.

Then you can have a friendly chat and find out more about them and whether they have a history that you cannot cope with.

If you don’t know anyone that knows them then you can always check out the media face book etc. If there is nothing about them in that area then may be you can speak to one of their friends or family.

Even a friendly bar man where they may visit regularly may enlighten you.

If none of these work for you then you will have to be very careful.

Many men and women target a new partner for their particular needs. They tend to overwhelm you at first sending continuous texts and phone calls sometimes gifts and flowers as well.

After three months there could be a dramatic change.

Often that is when the cracks start to appear.

The idea is to draw you in and maybe move in with you if they can.

Be very suspicious if someone new asks for money early on in the relationship, whether it is a lone or any excuse to do with finances.

It is a well-known red flag that you are being targeted and used.

So be very alert with anyone new that you meet who has no family or friends even if they come up with a plausible story. It is often a sign that they have left an unpleasant situation behind.

It is always best to be careful if there are a string of relationships behind them.

If a previous partner of your new interest contacts you and tells you horrible things about them it could be they are just jealous, or there could be truth in what they say. So it would not hurt you to keep an open mind and if possible do some digging about your new partner.

With Google you can now see where people have lived and where they work.

Just taking a few diplomatic enquires could save you heartache in the future.

Of course it would also help to have a romantic reading with one of our experienced psychics.

People who control their partners are not always aggressive or violent.

One of the first signs of a controlling person in a relationship is that the partner tries to isolate their partner from family and friends.

In can start in quite a small way by them complaining how often or how long you talk to your relatives or friends, or how often you visit them or go out with them.

They will try and turn you against your family or one particular person if you are close to them.

The object is to get you in a position so that you don’t have any one to back you up or turn to and that you rely on them only.

They will try and get you to be totally dependent on them emotionally.

You will lose confidence in yourself if you stay with them and you will even think that it is your fault that there is a problem and that is one of their aims.

They will criticize you in a small way at first; it might be, if you lost some weight and wore such and such, I would fancy you a lot more, that kind of thing.

It happens to people across the board from highly educated to no education, we are all a target for the controller.

It does not matter how intelligent you are or how much money you have the controller can relentlessly target you, till he or she gets what they want.

What they want is total control of you.

I once new a lady who if she met a friend for coffee for instance, he would send relentless texts to her till she came home, and in the end she gave up going out! That’s how bad it can get.

They spy on you what ever you are doing.

They want a minute-by-minute account of what you were doing if you just went out for a loaf of bread, and God help you if you took longer than they thought you should off.

They go through your phone, as they don’t trust you.

They make you feel guilty and nervous.

At worse they can be threatening and abusive and violent.

So if you see any of these signs in a new relationship, run for the hills. If you are already in a controlling relationship, seek help there is plenty out there.