It is very tempting to try and get together once you have left a relationship.

After a couple of months of being on your own then reality kicks in and you begin to miss the one that you loved.

You may also have financial difficulties and feel lonely as well, which can lead you into thinking well, it was not too bad and start to think about trying again.

However, the statistics are not good for people getting back together . In 87 percent of couples that try again only about 13 percent stay together.

The problem is that if you have problems then they must be sorted out before the relationship can succeed. Otherwise, the problems will occur again and within a few weeks or months you will be back to square one.

On top of those issues, there may be other issues, like having to trust your partner, which you must do or things will just eat at you and cause a break down between you.

Or, maybe you will find it hard to forgive your partner. Which is essential if you have to make a success of your relationship.

The past problems have to be put in the past and not dragged up every time you have a disagreement.

If you really love your partner, it would be worth having counselling or a mediator to help you come to terms with your problems.

Are you sat at home alone with just a pet to talk to?

Or maybe you do have a very busy life and plenty of friends, but no love in your life and you have given up looking.

I remember some years ago a lady in her late fifties came to see me for a reading.

All she wanted to know was if she was going to get married, that was all she wanted in life, to be happily married.

She was a professional person and met many different people every day in her work.

She still lived with her parents who were elderly but very well off.

This lady had an action packed life; she had horses and went riding.

She travelled the world and had many interests and many friends.

In spite of her privileged life she had never really had a loving relationship.

She told me that she just had not clicked relationship wise with any one that she had met, although there were plenty of men that she had liked and got on with but not fallen in love with.

I told her that she would get engaged by the time she was sixty and she would get married a short time after.

I am pleased to say that my predictions came true.

In fact she got engaged on her birthday when she was actually sixty.

She retired early and has been very happy.

So my point is, it is never too late to find love.

There is someone out there for everyone.

So don’t give up.

Why not have a reading with one of our excellent readers and see when you will find love?

Many people have asked me – “Will my lover ever leave his wife or partner and come and live with me?” the answer is usually NO!

Why is that? Well, the answer is because it suits him or her. The man does not want to upset his wife or lover, his friends or his children. He also does not want to have his finances becoming compromised as often it would leave him worse off.

However, he will often come up with a great variety of excuses for not leaving. The favourite being he will leave when the children are older.

Another favourite is that his wife is not well, or her parents are ill and she has a lot to cope with so he cannot just leave her as he would feel guilty, and it would not be fair. If you are the mistress, then you would reason that he is being caring and carry on with the relationship.

He is in a great position; he has a caring wife who cooks and cleans for him and for his excitement and to make his day out of probably a boring or routine relationship he has a secret sex life.

Someone who cannot do enough for him is at the end of the phone, craving for his calls his texts and his visits. If he calls late at night only, then you are definitely being used. If he never takes you out, then it would appear that you are cheap to keep happy!!

Some women are happy to be a mistress and carry on with their lives with other relationships too. However there are few than can carry on with such a situation and be happy about it.

So as I have said before look at a person’s behaviour not at what they say. Do they follow through with what they have promised to you?

If you have been a mistress for a while, then you can say that you are going to stay being a mistress.

One way to test your relationship is to tell them to come back once they have got a divorce or are actually separated. I think that you will have a long wait!!