A few years ago I had a dream it was so vivid.

I dreamt that I was on a cruise ship that was leaning right over on its side. I was sitting on it and my husband was with me and I was frantic and told him to use his phone to get help as we were sinking.

There was a big black hole in the side of the ship that I presumed we had climbed out of.

I woke up and told my husband about it and then we decided to put the TV on to watch the news as we normally did most mornings.

The first image that appeared was a cruise ship leaning over and in trouble.

We could not believe out eyes.

It was the Italian ship Costa Concordia that had run onto a sandbank

That was 13 January 2012, which was actually a Friday!!!

I have had many cruises and experienced three near misses myself.

The first was on the Canberra on the last day of the cruise a fire broke out and it was under my cabin.

I wondered why my floor was hot!

No sprinklers were on board.

However the fire was put out in the engine room and we ended up on the BBC news!!

The ship was retired the following year when all engines failed at sea and tugs had to bring her back to port.

The second one was when I was on a brand new Princess ship called The Royal.

We were in the middle of a talk about what a state of the art the ship was and the fuel etc., when everything when black and quiet.

The engines had failed we were 85 miles from Naples however they managed to limp slowly back to port every time they put a spurt on, everything including lights stopped and went out.

They gave us all our money back even though we had had 10 days of the cruise!

The third experience was the worst and scary.

Again Princess Cruises this time The Regal a brand new ship.

We arrived at Santorini in the Greek Islands and anchored off in the bay when we were hit by a Hurricane.

The ship start to tip over and the Captain could not get the thrusters (if that’s the word) out to steady the ship.

Chairs started falling off balconies into the sea.

They struggled to get life- boats off in the horrific wind.

We were told later the wind was 92.2 miles an hour.

The Captain said after in all his 19 years he had never known anything like it.

Water was pouring several inches deep from the toilets and as the ship tipped bottles and glasses fell off the bar.

Staff were frantically rushing about.

We thought that our end had come.

Huge swirling waves were in the sea and it was very dark, even though it had been swelteringly hot an hour before.

The Captain pulled out of the bay into the sea and as we came out of the bay the ship started to go upright.

We waited till the evening this was around 2 am till the storm finished then went back to the two thousand passengers and five hundred staff stranded at the port of Santorini and picked them up.

Strange but true.

Women on a ship was considered bad luck, as there was jealousy amongst the crew and this caused discontent and arguments and distracted them from their work and legend has it that they thought it made the sea angry.

However, apparently naked women have a calming affect on the sea that is why in days gone by they used to be portrayed on the front of ships.

The launching of a ship and naming it is usually done after it has been built and it has done its sea trials and is ready to sail.

History tells us that as early as 3^rd millennium BC they used to launch the ships and some would sacrifice an ox probably to please the Gods.

The Vikings continued celebrating the launch with the spilling of blood then gradually that became Wine then eventually Champagne.

Today, we have a woman to launch the ship and this believe is to bring good luck and prosperity.

Friday was a bad day, they believed, to start a journey on a ship. They think this derived from the fact that Christ was crucified on a Friday.

They thought Sunday was the best day to start a journey, again may be believed as Christ was resurrected on a Sunday.

They believed that clapping on board a ship brought thunder and lightning and whistling brought them a storm.

No bananas were allowed on board, as ships that carried them often disappeared.

The theory was that the bananas fermented and released toxic gases that killed the sailors.

Another theory was that poisonous spiders would hide in the bananas and kill the crew so it was a bad omen to have the bananas on board.

If sailors died on board due to an accident the sailors believed that their spirits haunted the ship and put a curse on the vessel. So, if anything went wrong they would blame the spirits.

Blowing hot and cold in a relationship can be sign of many things, but mostly that the person wants the control. They also do not want to get hurt.

It is so upsetting if this happens to you especially if they have been very keen, which they usually have been, as they want to be intimate with you. The important thing is to find out whether he is using you.

Sometimes they pull away because they feel that they cannot and never could make you happy. You could just ignore it for a while and see if things change.

You could ask them straight out why they are behaving this way. If they deny it and say that they don’t know what you are talking about then you know that you are in trouble.

He or she is probably immature emotionally and you will have to either finish it, or put up with the situation, which will probably never improve.

Often, they behave this way because they have been hurt in the past.

Ask yourself do you want to get involved with someone who is so unpredictable and lacking empathy.

They obviously just want the power over you, and you will just never be compatible.

They will also confuse you and make you unhappy.

So, your only choice is to walk away.

There are many reasons why a new boyfriend may blow hot and cold.
If the relationship is fairly new, then he might not know what his feelings are.
He may even feel a bit nervous, especially if he has recently come out of a relationship himself.
He may be just messing you about because he does not know what he wants.
Of course, he may be playing the field and have one or two others on the go until he makes his mind up who he wants.
One thing is for sure if he keeps coming back then there is some attraction and he does like you, but what you want to know is to what extent and will it last.
Sometimes he just wants to play it cool and see how you react.
Some just carry on though, seeing others and playing hot and cold all their lives, because at the end of the day they do not really want to commit.
So, it is not your fault, they would be same with anyone else.
Other’s use is as a strategy, playing mind games to make you keener.
It is a way a man has power over you and the relationship.
Some men use it as a way to make you contact them and hope that you do the running.
Sometimes a lot is going on in his life that he has to deal with, so you will have to give him time to work things out, as you will not be his priority.
Some men panic when feelings start to develop between you, and they draw back to see how they feel about the relationship and the future of it.
It can be very frustrating and upsetting when a man behaves like this in a relationship.
I will give you some tips next month on how to deal with someone who behaves like this.

 

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